Not sure. I was 21 years old and spent most of the summer working construction to make extra money for college. On the job, I got to know one of the guys [Mike] who was a little older than me. Like 25?
One Friday after work, a group of us stopped by a local watering hole to tie a few on. At the end of the night, Mike invited me back to his place to chill. The next thing I knew, we were going down on each other.
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But that changed during my time in bootcamp after joining the Marines. There was a guy who was about my age 22 who I was strangely attracted to. Not sure if it was his build or what, but I just I just know that I liked him. Just before graduation, we ended up hooking up off-base. Not sure how to explain the dynamics. It was a few days just before Thanksgiving and everyone had left campus to go home for the holiday, except for me and two other guys staying in the dorms.
Feeling bored, the three of us decided to hang out in my room and play poker. One of the two dudes was out on campus. He offered to go down on me and the other guy as a bet. It was the first time I had ever experienced something with another guy. When I was 25 years old, I took my little brothers on a camping trip to the northern woods of Wisconsin. We had been making the trek from Chicago for years, but after our dad passed away we decided to keep the tradition going.
While we were staying at a state campground, one of the park rangers came by our camping area to warn us of pending severe weather. I think the guy was around 30 years old? We started talking, and I got the sense he was interested in me. Hard to explain. When I gave him my number, I knew exactly what I was doing. Sure enough, when he arrived in town, he called. I ended up going to his hotel and we ended up getting it on.
Nothing serious. After that happened, I never heard from him again. I think labels do more harm than good. Two years ago, another guy who was my age was put on the night shift. To pass time, we made small talk and gossiped about people in the building. One weekend around 2 or 3 in the morning, we were super bored and started talking about our hookup experiences.
We ended up swapping head in a utility room.
When summer was over, he got transferred to another building. When I was in college, I played football. Body image is an issue for many men, regardless of sexuality. But it seems to be more of a problem in the gay community. When it comes to appearance, gay men hold themselves - and one another - to far more exacting standards.
I spoke to a few men anonymously about this on Grindr. A leading gay lifestyle magazine, Attitude, has just published an entire issue dedicated to body image problems in the gay community. Part of the obsession some gay men have with their appearance definitely comes from seeking validation. HueyDavid - YouTube. They look past your sexual orientation. How to be Gay and Happy.
Todd argued that homosexuality is often accompanied by feelings of shame stemming from a lack of acceptance in society.
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Those feelings can lead to a lack of acceptance for ourselves, which leads to an unhealthy fixation with our appearance. In , the International Journal of Eating Disorders found that gay or bisexual men were three times more likely than straight men to have body image issues. It seems to be the other way around for women, with a study finding that lesbian women reported less body dissatisfaction than heterosexual women. According to the lesbian blogger Denise Warner, "women are more accepting of body flaws, possibly because they're so aware of the sexism in mainstream media" when it comes to promoting unattainable beauty standards.
I came out when I was 15 years old.
David compared himself to boys he thought were more attractive than him. David also thinks the LGBT community is judgmental about appearance. They go for two hours in the morning and two in the evening. It definitely affects people negatively. Getty Images.
A Grindr user agreed. They decided to make their video — in which they strip naked and talk candidly about their insecurities — after watching a documentary about the pressure women face to conform to media-driven beauty standards. Gay conversion therapy: